No matter who you are, there’s nothing easy about the divorce process. It will affect almost every part of your life, from your personal relationships to your finances. However, if you’re a parent who’s divorcing, there are many other points of consideration.
On the plus side, when you know what to expect as you move through the divorce process, it’s easier to formulate a plan that will keep you on track and help you avoid unnecessary complications.
Here are some things you should expect (and prepare for to the best of your ability):
- Child custody: Maybe you’ll obtain physical custody of your children. Or maybe you’ll come to find that your ex-spouse has physical custody, meaning you’ll only see your children during scheduled visits. Understanding the many different types of custody arrangements will help you take the best approach.
- Co-parenting: Once you decide to divorce, some of your energy should turn toward co-parenting and what you can do to make it work. It’s not easy on you, your ex or your children, but the approach you take can help bring stability to your life in the future.
- Child support: While not always the case, child support may impact your finances after divorce. For example, if you’re required to pay child support, you must add it to your budget. And if you receive child support, consider how you can best use the money (all within the legal limits of the law).
One last thing to expect is disagreements. With your marriage in the past, you’ll find it easier to turn every disagreement into an argument. And when that happens, you’re adding more stress to an already difficult situation. Learn when to stand your ground and when to go with the flow.
Just because you’re going through a divorce doesn’t mean your relationship with your children is over. Yes, it’s changing, but you’ll soon find a new normal that you’re comfortable with.
When you understand the divorce process and potential impact on you as a parent, it’s easier to make decisions that will work in your favor. And when you do that, it’ll benefit your children as well.